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ACOA’s many times have a plan B and a plan C to make sure that they aren’t hit with too much anxiety. Adult children of alcoholics usually feel that they are different from other people.
– My message to ACOA’s is that they are actually pretty darn normal. It is a myth that there is a majority of normal people out there while we are the freaky damaged minority.11.
Some of my recovering ‘mascots’ have to work hard at not being so funny during group therapy so we can get some work done. Adult Children Of Alcoholics tend to be compulsively rescuing.
– I had a session with a guy this week that said that his rescuing seems to help him feel like a better person as a result.
Adult children of alcoholics are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that the loyalty is undeserved.
– We were loyal to our parents because they were all that we had. They tend to lock themselves into a course of action without giving serious consideration to alternative behaviors or possible consequences.
So our childhoods are very short, if we get them at all.7. Adult children of alcoholics overreact to changes over which they have no control.
Adult children of alcoholics have difficulty with intimate relationships. Unfortunately we grow up and marry cleverly disguised versions of the people who hurt us the most growing up. – Abrupt change that we have no control of triggers the anxiety that comes with chaos.
– Most ACOA’s grow up with at least one parent critiquing them with a very harsh voice. When under functioning alcoholic parents drop balls then we have to forfeit our childhoods to pick them up.It appears that much of what is true for the children of alcoholics is also true for others and that this understanding can help reduce the isolation of countless persons who also thought they were "different" because of their life experience. Woititz ‘Adult Children of Alcoholics - The Expanded Edition’In other words, even though neither of my parents were alcoholics, I am an accepted and card-carrying member of the ACOA club.The first 13 characteristics of an ACOA you veteran ACOA folks will recognize, as they are Dr. I added 7 additional characteristics that I have observed through the years of working with hundreds of ACOA’s.Adult children of alcoholics are super responsible or super irresponsible.– I had a client once who was in charge of getting the electrical bill paid each month, at age 10! Some of us are exhausted and old by the time we get to adulthood and we then spend our adulthood acting like little children to make up for lost time.12.